A neighbour has complained to me about my kids?
Question:A neighbour has complained about my kids climbing on a fence which separates our houses. I dont think there is any problem here as they are climbing a fence which is in our garden. Am i in the wrong??
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It could damage the fence though...is this what he is worried about. Or maybe he doesn't want them looking in his garden?
I think it would bug me to be honest.
Tell her to go to hell
Your kids are not in the wrong at, you both own the fence & it's in your garden so tell her to shut her mouth & keep out of your business.
I expect they a) view it as an invasion of their privacy having your kids gawping at them and b) worry about the fence falling down.
Please control your kids. It's not exactly good behaviour climbing on the fence and winding up the neighbours, is it?
yes,everyone has a right to their privacy, theyve been polite and asked and your just being ignorant
Who pays for the upkeep of the fence?...if it's you the kids have a right to climb it but it might be wiser to tell them not to..If it's your neighbours then they have have no right to climb on other people's property.It's worrying how many people here would tell their neighbours to 'shut up' and 'go to hell', no wonder people don't get on any more.
try and see things from your neighbours perspective. are your children looking over into your neighbours garden when they climb the fence, if so this is invading their privacy. also your neighbours may be concerend that the fence will break and 1) hurt the children and 2) cause expense
try and be polite and sort the matter out, its always best to keep friendly with your neighbours as you will never know when you may need there help.
Is it technically her fence or yours? If it's yours, tell her to get a hobby, if it's hers, appologize and tell her you'll talk to your kids about it, then explain to your angels that it isn't nice to aggitate old bags, lol! Make her a plate of cookies and talk to her for a few, she'll be alot sweeter about it the next time! ;)
if they aren't damaging it. or hopping over it and trampling their yard. then whats the big deal? this guy needs to cool down. but if your kids are really bugging them all the time, then you should probably tell your kids to stop. someones gonna have to have a little self-sacrifice here. why don't you and your kids be the good Samaritan?...
They could be being grumpy but bear in mind if this fence gets damaged you are resposnibile for fixing it not them
Is your neighbor complaining about the kids on the fence or the kids possibly getting hurt if they fall off the fence?
What are your kids doing climbing a fence anyway?
I'm sure there are safer places to play. And sooner or later the fence will need to be fixed because the kids' weight on it will certainly damage it.
As for your question, you'll be very wrong should any kid actually fall off and get hurt.
Think of it the other way, would you want kids clambering and staring into your garden?
At least they've been polite about it which is more than a lot of people would do.
Why not just get your kids to stop climbing on the fence? It's not really good behavious to strt with is it? Mayeb buy them a climbing frame?
No. As long as it is your fence. I hate nosy neighbors.
does the fence overlook her garden? if it does, would you want a bunch of kids looking over your fence?
also who is responsible for the upkeep of the fence-you or your neighbour-if they damge it will you pay for it out your pocket?
you shouldnt tell her to shut up and mind her own business-thats just rude and will create bad feeling which could last for years. next time your kids are on the fence sneak out the front , knock on her door and see exactly what the problem is. things often look different when viewed from another angle. maybe you just cant see what she can.
Well if u have the same spindly wooden fence like we have then i would chase them as well. They can get hurt and maybe she is just concerned about them. Surely the kids don't have to climb the fence and they can fall down. My understanding of fencing here in Uk is that the right fence is your responsibility to fix should it fall apart or over and the left would then be the neighbours [strange setup here in Uk ] but if they paid for the fencing, keep the kids off it. I personally would not let my kids climb any fence and would reprimand them they should learn to respect anything from a young age. Hope you don't get into trouble and am only stating how i see it, no offence to you:)
it depends on whos fence it is. is it yours then its fine as long as they dont go into her garden. if its hers then you are in the wrong and your kids should not climb on there.if they break it you will have to pay for it.
If you don't think there is a problem with your kids climbing on your garden fence (irrespective of who 'owns' it) - I pity your neighbours. If they want to climb take them somewhere designed for this - if they are young then a playground, if older a climbing wall.
They need how to live as part of a community - and that involves respect and compromise.
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i beleive everybody has the right to be comfortable at his own home and that includes privacy , peace with niegbours) if she doest like ur kids to climb guess ur obliged to respect that and accept her right there, just make her understand that this is not menat to hurt her and tahst cant magiclly be stopped at once and it might take ur kids soem time to get used to it . guess even if it doenst work right away with ur kids a nice respond coudl be enough to maintaine peace around
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If the fence is on your right, it is legally your fence. If it is on your left, it is your neighbour's fence. Never the less, the neighbour may feel his/her privacy is being taken away. Also if the children damage the fence, it will be unsightly. Maybe, as a matter of courtesy, you could tell your children not to climb on the fence. If they need something to climb on, why not buy them a climbing frame?
Of course you are in the wrong. If a neighbour makes a simple request like this, in the name of harmony and ongoing peaceful relationships you should immediately have agreed to stop the kids from climbing on the fence.
Do you really need a bunch of strangers here to tell you what is the right thing to do in these circumstances? Come on, use a bit of common sense.
No parent likes to hear criticism about their kids and we all get very defensive on their behalf. I think for the sake of good neighbourly relations, though, you should apologise for disturbing them and keep the kids off the fence. With four little darlings of my own, I'm very mindful that not everyone appreciates the noise levels they generate.my neighbours are great at compromise and are regular babysitters now. Diplomacy works for me!
first- you asked another question and you could have clicked the plus sign below your question and added details.
We are surrounded by kids and always have been- climbers, peekers, "helpers",questioners, screamers, rock throwers, wanderers, crying, you name it- a kid has done it in our yard.They use it as a cut through and their dogs follow them everywhere leaving little presents for us.
After all of this for almost 50 years I came to these conclusions maybe 25 yrs ago- you can't complain, kids are cute, and they grow up and move away. I remember as a kid being terrified of one neighbor- turns out he was just old and deaf and yelled a lot.
no
Throw a bucket of water over her and tell her to cool down
then remind her that she was a child once and should live and let live.
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