What is the best way to keep angryness away.?
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Anger is caused by pent up hurt, for most people going all the way back to childhood. When you didn't stand up for yourself, didn't confront the person who hurt you, when you held the anger inside it wasn't forgotten. Over the years, as more and more you hold in your anger, not forgiving those who hurt you, and not forgiving yourself, you turn that anger inward and it becomes guilt. Finally worn out with guilt, you enter depression. Your hobbies, passions, dreams are overshadowed and your path becomes self-destruction and denial, through drinking, church, TV, romance novels, etc. The way to find your way back to loving yourself is to admit your hurt, forgive those in your past, learn to confront those who hurt you when they hurt you rather than ignoring it, and get away from people who continue to hurt you because they are not your loved ones. Finally you can forgive yourself, because you are a good person because you do feel bad when you hurt someone, and no one's perfect and you deserve love right now. Then if you feel better you can begin to again discover what it is you love, follow your passions and find true happiness in this life by accomplishing your goals.
You mean to control temper?Just go through the following
Yes, there are always those moments when you feel like slaughtering someone or yelling until you've lost your voice for weeks... but you have to take control over yourself, so here are some tips!
Steps
1. Realize that things can be handled well at all times; it's just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it.
2. Be considerate of others, and ultimately, yourself. The way you react will ultimately affect your surroundings. If you have to rebuke someone for doing something wrong, you can always do it calmly, in a private place. This method is always better for everyone in the long run.
3. Realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry easily, and act abusive. The only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself.
4. Get away from situations where your anger might get the best of you, such as when someone is teasing you. Ignore the other person and walk away. If you must, do this a few times until the person gets the hint that you will not tolerate it. But never use your mouth or body negatively to tell someone that you won't handle teasing or anything of the sort.
Tips
* When you feel like you are about to blow up, count 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 and then decide how you will act. This doctor-recommended method has definitely helped, I can vouch for that.
Warnings
* Although it may seem hard in the beginning, you will get it as long as you put yourself into it. No one wakes up one day as a changed person, and you can't learn a new skill in one day...
* ... and yes, learning to control your temper is definitely a skill because not everyone can do it, and it's a great thing to master, good for you and for others.
Hope it helps.Good Luck!!
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I would avoid the scource of what made me angry in the 1st place, if at all possible. Think of times that were happy, in a lighter mood, and it is possible, I have done it!! Best of thoughts!
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