Why do I keep getting it wrong?
Question:Grrr it's so damn frustrating! Im supposed to be moving in 6 weeks, council exchange. Iv just found out today that the area Im moving to is awful, both my neighbours want to move aswell as others, the older kids on the estate are out of control and theres lots of conflict between the neighbours!!
would changing my mind now be wrong to the other people or right thing to do for my 3 children? Im so annoyed they didnt tell me this.
Answers:
Think about you and your children - don't put them in an area you know to be bad as it's hard enough growing up without any unnecessary problems. Next time check the area out at different times of the day (and night) before agreeing to a move. A lot of areas take on a different perspective once children come home from school or groups meet up on street corners.
If it is not to late all you got to think is you and your kids!! nobody else will put you first so stay put!
Stay put, don't move to the bad area, you and your kids safety is very important and you dont want them mixing around with loud mouth, ignorant, skag head, drunken idiots, don't feel guilty about it - they should have told you in the first place.
Protect your interests - not there's - you should have been told of the problems but there again - would you have told a prospective house swapper the truth - tell them it's off and look again elsewhere
be careful they might be hiding more stuff from you
Your kids are more important than strangers who are so desperate to move they hide the truth from you - and are happy to let your kids live there. Back out now.
Do NOT move. Your kids are your priority not the well being of others!
i'd get facts about the area before i made a decision at all, but it sounds like what your chums say may be correct. any time you move, you should contact the chamber of commerce in the location you intend to live in for the facts and figures of employment, education, cost of living opposed to wages, etc., etc., etc. then compare that report with what you pull down from the chamber of your current area.
you can also call both police departments. the police will tell you which areas are on the downward slide. watch out for a downturn, since real estate isn't selling these days, and i think we are headed for a recession in about a year. real estate and everything attached to the building up of it accounts for 28% of our GDP, so when it goes down, oh, heck! what a bad, bad domino effect. therefore a skidding location is just going to get worse.
you can always move another time, yes? can't you move somewhere else if the area is so bad?
i do agree that your children have GOT to be in a good neighborhood, away from gangs, away from dope, and not in schools where they are passed onto the next grade without having truly passed the one that they are in.
do not jeopardize your own family, ever, for anyone.
ps: if it's really as bad as you hear, i'll bet that you are going to have so many arguments with your husband as to cause you to think of divorce. would you think that HE will like the kids being around bums?
it is your life! good luck.
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