What type of emotional problems does someone have if they TALK TOO TOO MUCH??
Question:Constantly and ALL the time, our neighbor every single day seems like he can't get enough of talkin to everyone.
He's nice and all, however once he talks for hrs. and hrs. to me, then he goes across the street to talk to another neighbor for a long time, then he goes to yet another neighbor and chats w/them for hrs. as well.
Seems to have good manners, but isn't there a line between being social vs. some type of handicap [excessive talking beyond belief]?
Isn't a little more than him being afraid to be alone?
what is the matter exactly w/a person of this nature?
any therapists out there who could analyze a jibber junkie?
I put this in the gardening section because I find the respectful individuals posting here, plus I'd like ur advice on how to 'weed this neighbor' out some what/I'm never gonna be rude to him--i'm not like that. But I love gardening to myself and also writing/journalism. I've always been somewhat of a loner at times, yet socialize, just like to get things done
Answers:
For years, I had a neighbor like that. I am also a gardener, and I would work on other parts of my yard if I saw that "V" was out in her side yard. If she saw me and engaged me in conversation, it could literally be more than an hour until she stopped for a moment, giving me the opportunity to say something like, "Oh, sorry, I need to go use the restroom," or "Sorry I've got to go - I'm expecting a phone call from my mother."
"V" was a very lonely woman, and she never really asked about me and my life - it was always about her. She had been, at one time, a journalist who had been involved with some very interesting stories. But that was decades ago, and she hadn't really gotten adjusted to her life as a retired senior citizen.
Sometimes I would prepare a question for her - "Hey, what do you think about the new proposal from the city about." or "Do you know anything about pruning roses?" (even though I knew more about pruning roses than she did.) But in the end, I realized that she wasn't offended when I listened respectfully for a few minutes and then said, "That was really interesting! I'll think about that while I go (mow the lawn, prune the hedges, whatever) and we can talk about it some more later this week!" Usually people that talk and dominate a conversation aren't put out when we interrupt, as long as we are polite about it.
It sounds as if your neighbor, like mine, is just lonely and doesn't really understand that he talks too much. So be as nice as you can without really inconveniencing yourself. Use phrases like, "I know how busy you are, so I'll have to let you go," and then walk away from him. It's unlikely that he will take offense, but if he does, you will be freed from him.
Don't know why they do it . Luckily my only "jibber junkie" (nice phrase!;D) is a truck driver. When the delivery is over, that's it .
Try this : Do you have a cell phone & a land line ? If so have your cell ready with your land line # qeued up .When he gets to you,or GETS to you (;D) hit the dial button (discreetly, of course ) . Voila , instant distraction. If you don't have that , maybe you & your neighbors can make an arrangement to dial each other if you see one another "in distress". Other than that , come up with some ready-to-go excuses ahead of time .Maybe you could turn your oven on when you see him coming . Then you have to go in & check on it . ? Good Luck
i think they are lonely. i have one that is a neighbor. i wear a headset when i need my space. the one at work is the worst. i can hear her even threw the music. its basically attention and lonelyness.
Sounds like he is lonely or wants to know everything that is going on in the neighborhood. Also he could be bi-polar. Talk with him a while and then excuse yourself and say you have to go to the bathroom or that you are expecting a phone call, or your wash is done and you need to put it in the dryer, or that you have gardening to get done.
Tell him you will talk to him later and have a nice day.
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