How do I respond to a neighbor who constantly attempts to invade our family´s privacy?
Question:He mows the grass on property adjacent to ours(property does not belong to him) and sneaks looks into our yard(especially the pool area).
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I would say Why do you keep looking at our pool .Is there a problem?
Im getting a lot of stress from lack of privacy.when I catch your eye SO OFTEN looking in my yard and pool where we EXPECT that we are alone.(Let him know youre on to it)
And listen to his excuse.and be pleasant.
Tell him you and hubby are upset , and have all "noticed" and met eyes with him.If you have young children or teens please tell him its a real problem for you and your hubby looking at your family through the yard.when they think they are in Private.
Good fences make good Neiughbours as they say..Are you interested in some tall foliage or bushes that are fast growing if the Fence idea isnt feasable.I would enquire in my library or talk to a Garden Center.or Horticulturalist Plus ,If you like any privacy bushes in your Neighbourhood then p erhaps you could enquire from the Neighbour about them/.Most people are only too keen to hellp.
Expensive but a solution.
You could also screen the pool area off when you are in your Swim suit quite cheaply also.
I have great sympathy for you.I hope you find a good and affortable solution.
Ursula
PS
I would ONLY confront very gently but firnly exp;aining my own and my "husband "s concerns about what you have seen.WITH MY HUSBAND PRESENT.
PS If he only rents next door thats good. .Most rentors dont want trouble and the owners take a very severe view of "problem tenants"
I would not tell him what I am going to do but I would discuss it with the Owner.
The main thing is NOT to be alone when you confront him.Have hubby there please !.A man acts a lot differently around another man than around a complaining female who is alone all too often and a FEW guys present will make the point better than one .(Thats my humble opinion)Thats a LOT more forceful to see guys in numbers., ya know what I mean.
Hugs Ursula NY.
I'd confront him about it, tell him to keep his nose to himself, if he doesn't repond to this action call the police, he sounds like a sicko.
i shot a paintball gun at someone years ago for doing something similar, he called the cops but they just came, didn't care and left. never had a problem with the guy again though.
of course that was back then, now days if i did it i would be arrested, then taken to court on a civil suit by the guy wanting 1 million dollars for emotional damage.
i would tell him once if he still carry on i get the law on to him.
He probably thinks he is getting away with it, and that you aren't noticing his peeping. He will likely stop if he realizes you are aware. Next time he does it, make a big scene and embarass him. Shout out loud and wave your arms at him and say, "Hey! Excuse me! Did you need something? You look in our yard quite a bit!" You aren't being rude, but you are letting him know you are aware and that you don't appreciate it.
Walk over to his place and have a chat with his wife; speak to the neighbor who own's the property and let them know of his spying;build a fence; stick your garbarge in the area he is in when looking; have your hubby/boyfriend go talk to him when he is mowing the lawn; If you have a dog let him loose in the yard or set him up in the area where the pervert looks; and if he keeps doing it, make flyers up and pass them around your neighborhood advising them to be aware of this peeping tom and last resort, call the cops. I hope something helps... Good Luck!
Maybe it's time to put up a fence?
When he does it again , invite some friends guys & girls & have a stair down party . Have every one follow his every move , like watching a ping pong game . Don't make fun of him , just stair .
Every one could smile real big , wave & say hi .Offer him a drink of water .
He's either a pervert , nosie or very lovely
If that doesn't work call the police & make a report while he's there .
Good luck .
Having had 5 years of the neighbors from hell, I can tell you to try to put a stop to it right away. Just be glad he doesn't live there. Fences and dogs and a firm message to stay away and some help from police worked for us. I'd do the fence and big dog solution for sure.
Bergie
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