What can I do...Am I being mean?
Question:My 8/9 year old son has really taken to football.My point is that I bought him a goalie net ,to stop the shed glass from being kicked in ,,,,but now my grass is ruined.Awful,ruined horrid grass.Admittedly I treated it with weed and feed and it needs another rake,feed and now by the looks of it seed.Its not a big farden but I love it and in summer its my little haven,to sit ,sunbathe,bbq,etc...
I feel a mean mum if I stop him,,What can I do?Please help
Answers:
LOL...The fact that you are actually asking this question means you really don`t want to stop him ! Mourn the loss of your beautiful lawn , when he grows up and plays professionally he can buy you a new house ,garden and gardener.
let him play. when he moves out you'll always have the little divot to remember him by. :)
Kids always mess up the grass, boys with footballs, girls with swings. It's just a feature of a family house that the grass isn't in great condition. If you want to have a perfect little lawn to show off, you should maybe move to a house which has front and back gardens then you can have one for the kids and one for you.
Ask yourself, which would you rather raise grass or children? I hope it is children, since you already have a child. They grow up so fast.try to enjoy the brown area.there will be time enough for green grass when he is gone!
Is there any place in your yard that he can move his net to such as the side...somewhere out of the way!?
I know what you mean. My daughter loves her pool, but I hate what it does to my lawn especially towards the end of the summer.
find a new place for him to play like a basketball court
get his daddy to take him to the park for an hour or so after school =]
or just leave it ;] if the gardens ruined allready, hey, might as well leave it =]
x
Love your garden more than your son? no!! thought you were going to say that exactly... let your son enjoy being young as long as he is being careful, when he has grown up you can tend the garden when your old Or you can take him to the local park for a kick about!!!
I don't think you are being a mean mum ...mum's have rights, too ... and it is a FAMILY turf! So, consult with your husband and both sets of parents and see if you can find your son another place to practise ... it is not right to destroy a green area around your house ... and it is important for him to be considerate of certain things in life, too .some domestic beauty, some areas of the property that keep the house cool and green .aand then he will grow up, conscious of the needs of the planet, of his own community, and his own family .. and every community should have a park area where children can play . it is not bad to ask him to use park land ... you do not need to let him be selfish, and it is good to get a good look around the community and see what is available..that way he will grow up an aware and responsible citizen...he will help others with such projects...
Namaste
maybe move the net, so the grass can recover there??
poor some concreet for him to play on.
You are not a mean mum.
But a nine year old needs to grow more than the grass. Enjoy him .
Grass will always be there.
Get some artificial grass. If you get good stuff, it will look real, and it won't hurt him if he falls on it (common misconception) and it won't get worn out by playing football. And take lots of pictures; you're gonna miss the ruined-grass-days. Good luck!
Grass can be replaced at a later time, your son can't ever be replaced. Let him enjoy the net, and you should enjoy him. He'll either outgrow playing football, or he'll need more room. Eventually the garden will be yours again. Just have patience.
move his goal to another area of the yard that you wouldnt mind having trashed by him being active. I'll be honest with you I raised my two nephews now ages 15 and 17 and I have a daughter age 14 and son age 12 months. And I'd rather my grass be trashed from them being outside being active then have them sitting infront of the tv getting fat and lazy. I didnt let them play much in the front yard mostly in back for many reasons beyond just saftey.
boys will be boys. He is young and needs a place to play. When he grows up you will be wishing he was young again.
One day when he has left home you will look back and wish the grass was worn again.
Time goes so quickly. Look forward to a healthy looking lawn in a few years, and enjoy your every minute of your son.
If he gets practise he might become a rich famous footy player and buy you your own park!! LOL
Good Luck!
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