Husband is lazy?
Question:How do I get my husband to get of his as* and do something. I need a new kitchen floor, deck needs to be fixed, garage door opener is broken , pool needs to be opened, and the 2nd bathroom needs to be finished.
Answers:
if he refuses to do his fair share dont do yours: no cooking, laundry or housekeeping
hire someone to do just one of things on your list hand him the bill.tell him next week it will be item 2
Threaten no sex , or if you dont have sex at all anymore, give that to him as a bonus.
-Make sure he knows that you're willing to help.
-If you start to work and try to tackle things that you really don't know how to do, he will most likely help since he has to prove that he can do it better, plus he wouldn't want you screwing up his house. Another reason is cause he might be afraid he'd be doing this all by himself.
-Ask him to do one specific thing at a time so he won't be so overwhelmed
-Remember* Guys are like little kids: they'll do stuff more readily if there is a reward of some sort.
Good Luck!
Start getting free estimates from contractors to do the work after he see the estimates tell him you will hire them if things don't get done in a timly manner. GOOD LUCK
I really don't have that problem, it's hard for me to keep up w/ my man... We do things together... This weekend is weeds and spring cleaning, next month we're building a new deck. If you can, start doing it yourself, maybe he will be more inclined to do something for fear his wife will make him look bad/lazy to the neighbors and friends... But turning off the Cable/direct TV may help too.
What can he do that you can't? I fix stuff around the house all the time. If you don't know how to tackle a project, it's easy to research it on the web, or find a library book for ideas and techniques. You can do it, and you will feel great!
employ contractors to carry out outstanding work and then hear him complain about how much it is costing him, perhaps this is the incentive he needs
Try what a friend of mine wife did. She wanted a fire place in the house and he kept postponing it. One day when He pulled into the driveway from a hard day at work, she was waving to him from a hole in the roof. It was threatening rain and He had to begin right away. Another time She wanted one of the rooms enlarged, He came home from work and she had the wall between rooms removed with wires and plumbing hanging everywhere. Wasn't long until she only had to mention wanting something and it was done the next day.
What, are you so special you can't do it? There is nothing my husband can do that I can't. If I can't lift it, I ask for a hand. Otherwise, I am perfectly capable of doing it myself.
make it a game. tell him you guys can do something freaky or fun. make sure he knows there will be a reward. ha tell him your gonna have his work presented in a magazine and a before and after. anything to make him feel like he's accomplised something more than just work.
Lots of interesting stuff here. I'm retired and was used to being busy. I can't get used to doing nothing and I retired in1999 (8) yrs ago.
Slowly I became less active and less healthy, and heavier.
2 years ago I began having to take my handicapped son to a small gym provided for members of the blind commission here in SPAIN. There is a bicycle, treadmill, weight bench and a Technogym unit with all kinds of stuff on it plus a a 3 section wall ladder. They showed us how to set up everything and left us on our own.
We go 2 hours every morning 6 days a week. My son is 44, and goes 30 min on the bike and 30 on the treadmill. I force myself to do a little of everything else while he is busy.
Bottom line my annual physical shows a change from a sick old man to a normally healthy senior. I don't like it but at least 30 minutes of strenuous activity 3 to 4 times a week will keep you alive a lot longer. I can even get up on the step ladder again.
I know that I would get mad if my wife hired somebody to do the work, unless it was well above my head in the first place. It depends on how lazy the guy is though, maybe nothing will work...
Maybe you could list your house for sale?
Hi I am curious does he work for the government?
Maybe lazy, maybe unhappy. Take the high road and see what might be troubling him. Consider a new approach altogether. In most cases, threats and clever tricks like starting the job to force him to finish it or hiring a professional without his prior buyin are NOT good for a relationship.
The case of the lazy husband, or the case of money needed to do these repairs.
call " This Old House " or Bob Villa :)
Maybe he is broken? Take his golf clubs away.
Probablyif you open the phone book and call service people and get estimates, he will not what to pay them and will be more motivated. good luck
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