Procrastination?
Question:My dad is the WORST procrastinator! So I need help in how to motivate him with this thing he promised me he'd do. I should explain first:
When i 1st moved in my new house i got a TINY room.this was dec 05 & he promised then that before we moved in since the rest of the house was in good shape he would paint/renovovate it. he didnt do that until dec 06,but he paid my painter uncle to do it. so @ the time i was STILL waiting for my amazing closet( open concept 4 my tv(which is in the living room) my computer(which is in the laundry room) & my books(which are still in boxes) @ 1st he was going to buy me a tv stand & shelves & comp desk but then he wanted to build it so he waited to buy the wood until april 07, now its july 07 and he still hasnt built this for me. its embarrising when my friends ask WHEN is it getting done. i need this done. i cant even unpack, and all my boxes are still in my closet w/o doors. how can i motivate him to do this, w/o nagging?
Answers:
Sounds VERY frustrating. It sounds like he's not going to suddenly decide to do this on his own. I suggest you start weilding a hammer. You will either get it done yourself or he will jump in to help you and finish the job. My dad was a procrastinator at times too but he always managed to find the time to do the job when I started doing the job myself. A daughter and tools (especially power tools) is a frightening thing for a father to see.
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Try showing his friends your problem and seeing if that motivates him :)
Has he not done things because of the cost? Perhaps that is the reason? I would be honest with him and say Dad is there a reason why my room isn't done? Tell him your embarrassed because your friends are making fun of you because it's been almost 2 years.
In the meantime you might get some fabric and use that for your doors. Unpack what you can, perhaps then he will get moving. Tell him you would lilke to help with the projects perhaps that will help.
Talk to him, tell him you will help with the rennovations. But there isn't much else you can do, nagging doesn't seem to work well with men, sometimes I think the more you nag the less they do.
What about getting a calendar and saying When can you work on my closet? Write it in marker and have him sign it perhaps that will commit him to the project.
Lol yes, like worldsojourner, same thing had happened to me. I got tired of waiting for my dad to do it so I had asked my brother and his friends if they could help me. When my dad saw us struggling with a bolt, he came to the rescue and instructed us on what to do. Thankfully we got it finished, but ever since then I've been fixing closest doors and kitchen cupboard handles.
So maybe you can ask your friends to help you out. When your father checks in on you he'll be sure to rescue you from all that hard work.
Hope all goes well.
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