What can i do to get my husband and grandson to help clean the house i am tried?
Question:they just sit around watching tv, eating and wasting food and juice all the carpet.
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You do what I did with my kids. You place signs with big bold lettering at the laundry room, on the fridge, and on the screen of the tv. The signs read - I'M ON STRIKE! DO IT YOURSELF!! I did this for one week (okay it took them 2 days but still). Mean it, stick to it, do not give in! They'll get the hint.
men!
reward then after like take then out to eat or help them with something that they need.
Cut the cable to the TV, quit feeding them and tell them to get off their B*tts and accomplish something!
If that don't work just go do something you enjoy doing and leave the couch potatoes at home!
If you ignore the mess and let it build up around them do they notice? You may need to use some away time to get their attention to the mess. Tell them you plan to leave the house to see a friend or relative and will be back when they clean their mess.
dont do anything for them until they do their share of chores
Perhaps you could hide the remote. Then they would have to clean up to find it.
How long have you let your husband get away with it? Of course the male children will follow his example. Time to set a fire under his butt, (no not literally). Let him know that if he wishes to continue to be fed, it is time he grew up and started helping out. Give him specific jobs. Saying "pick up after yourself" is too vague. It will likely be like teaching the kids by this point. Maybe you can treat yourself to new a new sofa, and make new rules about not eating on it. Good luck.
ok I have seen this on a couple of TV shows over the years, but i did it myself when my children were small and it worked. When they leave anything laying out, shoes, clothes, toys, hubbys car keys or wallet, cups and dishes, snack foods etc (you get the picture), put the items in a garbage bag or large container and lock it in a closet somewhere. Each day give them an opportunity to BUY BACK each item for a certain price. You can keep the price low such as a dime or a quarter. Pick one day a week for a final sale, say Saturday, and give them one last chance to buy back the items of that week. If they cant afford to buy it, then either toss the items or donate them to a charity. They eventually will get tired of having to pay for something that is already theirs or having to replace the items, and will start putting their own things away. Use the money you collect to do something for yourself, even if its just to buy yourself an ice cream treat.
As far as getting them to pitch in on housework, stop doing the housework yourself. Let the dishes pile up for a few days, dont cook meals and when they ask wheres dinner say in the freezer help yourself. dont make the beds or sweep or dust or do laundry. Do exactly what they are doing, watch tv and chill. After a while maybe they will see and appreciate how much you do and pitch in.
Remove the TV and call a family meeting and tell them what you expect.
Call a family meeting, with you and the two of them. No tv or other distracitons while the meeting is going on.
Let them know, that things need to and are about to change, for the better.
Let them know what they take out from the cupboard, etc., is to be washed, dried, and put away by that same person. If they make a mess while eating, they are to clean it up-all spills included.
Have you had your carpet professionally cleaned? Call and get an estimate, (3 would be good), and present that information to them, the cost of it, etc., and tell them that it needs to be done. And, that after all that money is spent cleaning the carpet, you expect them to do their best to help keep it clean.
Put a "no shoes" sign for the inside of your home. Shoes come off just inside the door. Teach your grandson how to do his own laundry (watch him the first few times to make sure he does it right, not too much soap, etc.).
Let your husband know that marriage is a two way partnership, Is he retired? Then he needs to help around the house-no if's ands, or buts about it.
My two older sisters have been married several years to their husbands, and, even when the children were growing up, the men helped my sisters (and still do) around the house. Sometimes even with the cooking. Pretty cool, eh?
I wish you the best. Take care.
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