Omg. it's only 1:00 on saturday and i'm ready to collapse already.?
Question:i have this problem, well a few actually that contribute to a bigger problem. okay...i work full time, have an 18 month old son, am 2 months pregnant with baby #2 and have a husband who wouldn't know a broom from a toilet brush. i'm soooo tired during the week and just don't want to do housework when i get home at 6, plus i have to cook dinner, feed my son and give him a bath etc... i certainly don't feel like getting up after i eat dinner but somehow i manage to clean up the cooking mess and do dishes. and it's not that my husband WON'T do anything, it's just that he doesn't take responsibility for doing anything and i have to ask him to do things (spelled out in detail).really he's like a teenage boy when it comes to cleanliness...it's very trying. so...anyway...i save everything for the weekends... laundry, mopping, scrubbing the bathroom etc. and it's just not working. any time management or i dunno any tips at all? help.
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jajajaja You're a joke...
My wife would not let me get away with that. I have 1 1/2 kids as well. We are all tired at the end of days but there are still things that have to be done .
Husband needs to pull his load like a grownup.
There are no time mgt tips from me. I budget my time as does my wife so we have time to do things like answer questions online.
I use to save everything to do on the weekend like you. And then a funny thing started happening. I was sick every weekend. I was making myself sick thinking about it.
Well, if hubby isn't helping at all, you need to insist that he take over something. My hubby likes going to the supermarket. If yours does, send him with a list. My hubby also likes to wash clothes, but then crams them into a laundry basket after they dry. So I just tell him it is responsibility to wash only. Teach your husband to cook a few simple meals and ask him to prepare one when you are especially tired or overloaded. Make a chart of all job that need to be done. Ask him which he prefers and assign him to it. If he doesn't do it, you must not do it for him. Teach him a little responsibility. Marriage and parenthood is a partnership and he is not doing his share!! Good luck!! Check on line for help in this area.
I sympothise your situation. My bf is just like your hubby. hah, that's why I don't want to have kids with him. But anyway, back in the days when women used to do nothing but housework was okay, because we used to not work. Now, things changed, we all work now. and then on top of that, do baby stuff and house work? Too much for me I say, I told my bf if someday we were to wedd. If I'm working, he better take the responsibility to clean the freaken house too, plus take care of the kids. It's now a 50/50. You have to retrain your husband that this is no longer the old days where we women are homemakers.!
Good luck.
When I also worked my house hardly stayed clean. It took me and my husband to work TOGETHER on it. I think your husband needs to start being understanding and be more grown up to realize that you cant and shouldn't be doing all that while pregnant. Its hard on your body and your family and he really should be helping you out. Maybe make a chore list and show him how to do things the first time if he doesn't know after that he should get it. Take turns giving your son a bath. Maybe you could pre cook and freeze some meals so those nights you really cant move you have something to just heat. If you haven't tried it go to www.chefs.com to find almost anything you are interested in cooking. Good luck! I hope your husband can step up to the plate for you.
Just keep asking your hubby. They are like that most times.having to spell things out. Spell out that he's going to now be responsible for keeping _____ areas clean cause you are exhausted.
I remember that first trimester exhaustion.it'll be over soon for you hopefully.
Sounds like your hubby is willing to help you, but you haven't figured out what he can do. You need to write down all the chores & things that must be done. Then, you & your hubby go down the list & decide who will do what (it's best if he can pick the things he'd like to do). BUT he must start helping you-as already pointed out-he's an adult in the household-not a child. Don't let him continue to get away with this! <grin>
Grocery shopping has already been suggested. He could clean up the dishes after dinner & put them in the dishwasher (takes very little time & skill -LOL) and bath the baby nightly or every other night (good bonding time & good practice for when #2 baby comes). This would give you some time to do laundry or clean a bathroom during the week, so on the weekend, you wouldn't have as much to do. Why not convince your hubby that by him helping out during the week, you would have more time (energy) on the weekend & could do something fun as a family (like go to the park, picnic, visit friends/relatives).
Another alternative is to hire a housecleaner to come in for a few hrs every week (or other week) if you can afford it. (Less expensive would be to hire a teenage girl to help on Sat a.m. w/vacuuming, dusting, etc.). This way, you would not have to deal with the bathrooms, vacuuming, kitchen, dusting, etc. Some will launder your sheets & put them back on the bed. With you working, a toddler & 2nd baby on the way, & little help from your hubby, this alternative may be the best one! A little $$$ could buy you some quality family time & give you some a much needed break. Worth considering!
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