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Question:Ive been gone for a couple days and I come home to the nastiest kitchen you could possibly imagine...it was just my husband and his friend here so...of course no one bothered to tidy it up or put anything away or even SCRAPE OFF THEIR PLATE...and now Im faced with this huge disaster area and I realllllly dont wanna do it! Help me, tell me I can do it please!!
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lol you can do it!!! put on some good music, turn it up, get it done, then reward yourself w/ something fun that you enjoy :)
Put some music on and go for it!! Also aim to give yourself a nice treat when the kitchen is done. Also think about asking your hubby to help, I mean it is his mess isn't it???
To be honest, i think that you shouldnt clean up after your husbands mess. Its understandable if your husband worked alot and just got home to eat and you gotta clean after him, but if your husband decided to become a child with his friends and not give a care that his wife is going to have to come home with a messy house, i feel its him who should be doing the cleaning. I feel that ur husband should respect you more, especially since he is an adult. If you need to, then clean up after him this time, but you should really talk to your husband about being more mature on things and to respect you a little more. Nobody likes to come home to a messy house. Especially after u were gone for a few days, im pretty sure ur tired and just want to relax.
Kill them with kindness.
That is what I have learned and trust me it works like a charm. Make your husband do it, but don't make it seem like you bossing him around. Just tell him exactly how you feel and that you don't appreciate what they did. But you have to do it like if you was talking to an 8 year old. Be very VERY nice about it. And if he actually gets up and do it -help him. Tell him that its not that you don't want to do it, it's just the fact that it was not done expecting you to do it, and that is what making you not want to do it.
If it is something that you absolutely have to do and he will not budge in even understanding where you are coming from, then after you are done, explain to him your feelings. But again, KILL HIM WITH KINDNESS, be very nice when you talk to him. You don't want to start a fight -that will lead you to nowhere. Tell him that next time you would like for him to be more considerate.
Much luck to you...
OMG get his butt in there and tell him to do it!! I am not kidding! That is just the way it is in my home.
I also went thru the same thing with my husband. I went into the hospital for 4 weeks for surgery. Then I had to go to a Rehab Center for my legs for another 4 months, The first week was not too bad according to my daughter. She came over and cleaned the place up. My husband and I were taking care of his 83 year old mother at the time. She is blind and would go into the kitchen and try to clean up. After the 3rd week he got into a spurt and decided he had enough. He actually cleaned the whole place in 2 days. My son and daughter said they were really surprised. He said the reason he woke up was the fact that he saw little bugs and realized he had really slacked off. He went out and bought friendly light bulbs and then ordered cleaning supplies friendly to the environment. He said the place had never looked cleaner. Mabey next time stay away a few more days and call ahead and say if they do not clean up you will call a maid service and divide the cleaning bill between him and his friend.
Calm down. It will be OK.
Now I suppose that you have already finished reading him the riot act for his total lack of responsibilty and lack of concern for your feelings, so now do this:
If you have a dish washer, pile the plates,silverware and glasses in there, food and all, and set it for the most powerful cycle you have.
Next, tackle the pots and pans, two or three at a time. Wash and dry them and put them away.
Then do two or three more till you have waded through them.
Next, start putting anything that needs to go in the trash into the trash.
Lastly, wipe down your counters and start re-assembling your kitchen.
Have patience, take it one step at a time, and it will be OK.
Oh, and you might want to suggest to your husband that he share in the cleanup. Unless he wants to feel like you are still gone when it comes time for bed and romance for the next couple of weeks.
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