How to get a man to help clean the house with out being a b*@ch.?
Question:my husband wil not help clean up after himself. What can I do to get a little respect and help around the house without coming off like the worlds biggest B*@ch?? Ant help at all would be wonderful.. Guys pitch in any time...
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make it fun, do the chores naked --- if you dont have any kids, offer him rewards, make it a game!
dont ask him!
make him clean- up. if he lives there too he should clean up too. women do need breaks too ya know.
Good luck with this one. If a person is raised to be a slob or to be lazy then it's hard to change this habit. It takes over 20 days to form a new habit. I'd sit him down and tell him he needs to help or get out. It's easy to clean up after yourself. A little maintenance now will prevent a big clean up in the future.
I had the same problem with my husband. I started with the yelling, nagging..it didnt work. Then I tried the "say it with love" approach, it actually worked! He now cleans up after himself but occasionally there will be the socks out of the hamper thing he does, but its ok. He improved!
I don't know . . . don't feed him? Men are difficult to make do something. If for some reason he doesn't think he needs to clean up after himself, you can't talk him into it.
We sat down with a list of chores and divided them. I do things he doesn't remember, like dishes and bathroom. He does things I hate, like vacuum and garbage. Does that help?
Oh and it's our own responsibility. So I do the dishes when I feel like (or when it's just time). There's no you didn't get this done yet cuz it's all nonscheduled, as long as it gets done.
Plus men sometimes don't know they're messy. Women are a little more tuned in to the condition of their houses sometimes.
Why are you asking him to do your work anyways?
Go on "strike". Just stop doing all the things he takes for granted-laundry, dishes, housecleaning-he will eventually say something! Then explain to him that you are tired of being taken for granted and treated like the maid, and you would just appreciate a little bit of help around the house. It worked for me! Now my husband and my kids notice right away when I've had it!
well ask him really nicely to clean up his mess and if that doesn't work then you can always just clean up your mess and not his then he meant clean up his own mess
It doesn't take that much extra effort to drop the socks in the hamper than on the floor. Maybe work on the small things like that. By the way, what's the division of labor - do you both work full time, are there kids and who takes care of them, who takes out the trash and mows the lawn, etc. Everyone should pick up as they go, it's just good sense, but make sure you're keeping a perspective on this.
use the point system where cleaning things can result in accumulation of points that can be redeemed for sexual favors, favorite meals, etc.
Here's what I discovered after almost 20 years of marriage: sex! I would very sweetly ask him to do a small task... say, pick up his socks and put them in the laundry. As he was bent over picking them up, I'd cop a feel and tell him how sexy he looked bent over like that! I'm not kidding... I wish I'd known this sooner cuz it has made life for us the past 8 years much easier. Then when we go to bed at night, I tell him how happy it makes me when he does little things like that for me and show him how happy I am. It works great for both of us!
oh so sorry was there once, now divorced and happy I don't have to pick up after his **s any more.. Good luck sista!!
GET A BETTER MAN!! SORRY MAKE IT MORE EXCITING FOR HIM. ASK HIM TO HELP YOU WHILE YOU ARE WEARING HARDLY ANYTHING MAKE IT A LEAD IN TO WHAT ALL GUYS ARE LOOKING FOR
The only way you are going to get a man to clean is to call a main that happens to be a man. Guys don't care if the bathroom is clean, dishes are done or the floors are swept. good luck
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