HOw can I get over the embarrasment>?
Question:Of having a couple of people show up unexpectedly to my apartment and It is a complete mess!! I Usually have it clean but yesterday (sunday) I just wanted to kick back.. my kids are really young 2 and 3 they were playing like rock stars, I said, "Oh I'll just clean when they go to sleep, I mean it's sunday who cares!" right? Well next thing you know a friend of my husband is at the door!! Then the handy man at the complex walks right in. I have to stop him and ask him what he needs...tell me he need s to measure the shower to fix some plumbing problem.I let him and told him he could come back to fix it whenever we are there ( tomorrow) but I mean I"m so embarrased! Why is it that when it's clean and sparkly that ;people won't even comeby...then the day you choose to chill they show up?
Answers:
There is a huge difference between dirty and cluttered! Just have a couple bins or baskets to quick throw stuff in when you get unexpected guests. If you have small children, most people are quite forgiving and have been there themselves! Don't sweat it!
People do understand that you have children. You don't always have to impress other people. If you wanted to take a day to chill then good for you. People will see that your not a slob or a lazy person the next time they come over. Normally a person can tell if it is always a mess or just some times. I have been to some really gross houses and they aren't embarassed because its their home. if you get embarassed because of a mess then it sounds like your not happy with your home. Don't worry about a mess or being embarassed just be happy with your life and your kids.
You have children, people must expect some clutter. do not let it freak you out. The handy man has most likely seen some really gross places in his time and probably did not even notice your clutter. As for your husbands friend it serves him right, he should have called first. Nobody will think less of you. Its OK.
First of all you SHOULDN'T be embarrased. They should, because they are showing up un-anounced. It is actually very rude to just show up at a friends house without calling first. No matter how good of friend they are. There is no reason why your husbands friend couldn't have called on his way over to say hey I'm going to be in the neighborhood is it ok if I stop by. However, that being said there isn't much you can do about some rude people. However, next time put the ownis of the embarrassmen on the offending party by politly explaining that you have been playing with your kids and if you had known they were coming over you would have stopped playing and had the house in order. I would make a simular statement next time you see your husbands friend so that he knows to call next time. Some people we need to teach mannors to, because their parents didn't. As for your super, you did the right thing by sending him away. He can come back another time to do the work if it isn't convinient at that time for you.
I agree that mess and filth at totally different. People overlook mess - scattered toys, mail piled up, some dishes in the sink. But, if it's moldy dishes in the sink, toys piled two feet high, etc, that's filth. But, from your post, it sounds like it was just a little messy, not filthy. I wouldn't fret it.
You might call it "Murphy's Law."
I have two children (albeit bigger ones now) and work full time so during the week my house is not as clean as it should be. Of course most of our "drop-bys" are people who drop by after work. It used to really bother me until I realized - I don't pay attention to what their houses look like, so why do I think they are paying attention to what mine looks like.
All of your visitors know that you have small children. I'm sure they aren't looking at what your house looks like. Relax, and if they say something just tell them "the cleaning lady has the day off today." After all, it's the truth.
Don't be embarrassed, Like you said you have two young kids and it's Sunday.Have you ever Seen the maintenance guy's apartment, It probably looks like a garbage can with a frig and he should have called anyway before he came over that's the law.And for your husbands friend tell him not to just stop by without calling, They both sound like winners.
the handyman just walks in? whats up with that?
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